Well that simply hasn't been my experience to be honest and I'm interested to know how much you have engaged with incels?

My article has been positively received by incels and 'normies' alike. Infact I'm in dialogue with an academic who describes herself as a feminist who is keen to collaborate to try to change perceptions about how incels are perceived. I have also been invited on to two podcasts, one of which centres around men's mental health.

I think you're wrong that incels don't want to 'get better', if given the choice they would change their plight in an instant if they felt they could. Whether they can or not is not something we can objectively know.

It has crossed my mind that many incels take such comfort from the identity and community aspect of inceldom that they would be reluctant to change. We need to give them a better choice than a powerful community that gives them a real/perceived grievance, fraternity and identity. Why would they choose the ritualistically humiliating, exhausting and expensive gauntlet that is the dating market?

I feel incels are very misrepresented due to the most extreme voices within their community. We quite rightly rail against other minority groups being defined by extremists within their community e.g. the harmful stereotype of muslims as terrorists, however we are reluctant to do this when regarding incels.

In society, we usually try to help or at least have sympathy for the most disenfranchised minority groups but we don't seem to do this when we discuss incels. In response to my article, I have seen people who are usually extremely kind commentators say things like, "life is hard...get over it".

I think this is a disservice to the vast majority of incels who do not meet the trivialised caricature description used by most media. This caricature of inceldom can lead to the temptation to dismissively shun incels from polite society but this doesn't help the problems they face and represent.